Mmm, I throw words around as 'shorthand' and I just know that it confuses at times.
OK, a little bit of my fannish anthropology theory.
First up, life is High School. Always and Forever. All the social shenanigans from that time live on with a thin veneer of 'adulthood' to disguise it. It's STILL Jocks and Nerds and so on.
Second, the 'Smooth Ones', what others would refer to as the Beautiful People. Attractive, sleek, connected. The ones who have the stuff, who get the stuff, who don't seem to have to struggle. Usually of the 'Football Captain/Head Cheerleader' class. Since they are 'accepted' by conventional society they never ever feel outcast, or a need to seek out others of their kind and mind as they are more often sought by their peers. Of course there are all kinds of pressures within this grouping but it tends to be self-leveling. If a dude can't cut it at Football he might succeed at Baseball or Soccer or Track. He's still within the hallowed circle of 'Jock'. (I won't digress about internal rivalry viz. the Jock community but it's obvious it exists)
And that means, in the words of Bill Murry in Stripes, we all are mutants.
If you're a guy that's not so good looking (for one reason or another) you can still manage to fit in the Jock world and be with the Smooth People. It's not that easy if you're a gal. Looks and appearance matter more and it's still true in this day and age.
And let us not dismiss the most obvious thing. Sex matters. The desire for sex is a very powerful force, and that's mainly on the males. It's genetic programming. It's why there's such abominable behavior at cons. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
Of course making general statements is risky, as there are ALWAYS exceptions. Smooth Ones can indeed be fans, but they will tend to keep it on the downlow. No Spock Ears hats or Dragonball Z bowling shirts for them!
The big change, the giant change I think, was the promotion of Cosplay. This was an acceptable way for an attractive girl to enter the smelly world of fandom. Show up, walk around, vanish back to a circle of friends. All the attention, low risk.
Ahhh I'm rambling now and lost all coherent thought. I'm all worked up about my colonoscopy. I'll revisit this later after everyone has read it, pulled it apart and yelled at me.
